Jul 31 2012
This week, my guest is Simon Hay, soul healer, psychic, and medium. In an extraordinarily candid interview, Simon shares a great deal about his work, his background, his joys, his sorrows, and his thoughts on subjects that most of us don’t discuss publicly. Sit back, cool peeps, and get to know this very interesting man.
Greetings, Simon. It is my extraordinary pleasure to have you as a guest today. You have offered to share some of the most personal details of your life with us. Few people are willing to share such intimacies. Why do you think you’re so different?
Many of us maintain safe online personas; we temper our personalities to match our careers, or our audience. I prefer to be transparent. With my work I investigate and intuit my client’s most personal thoughts and memories. I see images from the past and experience emotions that they’ve not shared with anyone else. Energy healing, for many, is an intimate experience. I believe, for people to trust me, it’s respectful to let my guard down.
I’m also a private person, which may seem like a contradiction, I respect everyone’s right to privacy, but I don’t want to be so professionally polished that I’m not real. I protect my family, friends and clients, but I believe that the experiences I’ve had in my past have shaped me to be a healer now.
You are a full-time healer and medium. Tell us how you came upon this profession.
In 2000, after the death of my partner’s father, my uncle and two mediums visited my home. During that visit four glowing human-shaped beings appeared in my lounge room. I felt peaceful and curious, so I attended the spiritual church run by the mediums.
Each service spiritual churches have guest mediums that speak about working with spirit and do readings for members of the congregation. The first four weekends I attended, the guest medium told me the same thing: “You should be up here doing readings.”
Their messages encouraged me to attend a meditation evening for psychic development and to connect with spirit. The first time that I meditated I lost control of my body: my eyes were closed and I couldn’t open them, a weight, like the feeling of a wet blanket, held me in place, I couldn’t move my limbs, I felt nauseous, and it felt like something liquid-like was forcing it’s way down my throat.
I popped out of my body and, standing and confused, I looked back at my seated body. Out of my body I was drawn to a light illuminating a tree. I walked towards the light and met my spirit guide, Gegu, a Buddhist monk and my twin brother in a past life. In an instant I knew who Gegu was, and the landscape he was standing in felt and looked real.
After this incident I meditated nightly and communicated with Gegu. He introduced me to healers from all cultures and periods of time, angels, indigenous elders, biblical figures, and then Jesus and his family arrived.
At this time, spirit and angels were physically materialising around me. Today, I see and communicate with angels, guides, Jesus and his family clearer and more directly than with spirit.
At the time I was a plumber, and, after watching a healing in the spiritual church, I volunteered to place my hands on someone. Heat flowed from my hands and the man I was touching fell asleep in his chair. I continued to heal, and lay drains, and often miraculous healings occurred. I don’t like using the word miraculous, but it seemed that way.
In 2005, due to a chronic illness, I retired from plumbing. Conventional medicine didn’t help me, so, with spirit’s guidance, I healed myself. When I recovered I became a full time healer & medium.
I know that ghosts hang around for many reasons. Can you tell us what some of those reasons are? I’d love to hear about some of the most interesting ghosts you’ve met? (As if they’re not ALL interesting! ☺)
The haunted house variety of ghosts are usually attached to a physical memory: a location, a vehicle, an item of furniture, an event. In some instances a period of time replays over and over and causes a poltergeist type experience.
Violent and sudden deaths – impact, gunshot, explosion – can also cause a spirit to hang around. Surprised and in shock, they simply miss the opportunity to go into the light.
Some spirits don’t move on because of stubbornness or unfinished business. I advise everyone to sort out or let go off any uncomfortable emotion between family and friends.
Spirits need to return to the light, whatever the light is (?). I can tell you it’s peaceful and spirits there are relaxed and happy. Also, all spirits are welcomed into the light, regardless of the nature of their deaths and lives.
A common visitor to my home is Mitch from Oregon. Mitch is a US Ranger and he brings spirits, who died in combat, to me to heal and pass into the light. He misses and visits his wife and daughter, but he can’t go home until he’s saved everyone. He brings combatants from both sides and civilians, and he breaks my heart with images of the daughter he never met.
Although he mostly observes, I enjoy visits from Pope John Paul. I wasn’t raised with religious beliefs, and the Jesus I talk to in spirit is the man, not the Christ, so I was surprised when John Paul visited. He’s curious about the real Jesus and is a warm intelligent energy to have breakfast with.
As a reporter and an ever-curious human being, I love opening my mind to possibilities. Do you run into a lot of skeptics? Or as the word is spelled in British English: sceptics. What would you like to say to them?
“Hi.” I like sceptics, and I get good results when I heal them, and this is the reason why: they’re honest, “I’m a sceptic, and I think what you do is bullshit!” and they turn up.
I don’t know why I have experiences with spirit, or how or why I’m able to heal, but I do have lots of interesting stories to share.
You didn’t have ordinary parents. Can you tell us about them?
My father was a carpenter and then a school teacher, my mother was a housekeeper and then an alcoholic. She also spoke to ghosts. My father has told me that the first time he met her she was levitating a coffee table. She also did séances with friends and I joined in during my teens. She was a gifted trance medium and the scribe during the séance. Her posture and style of writing changed, mimicking the communicating spirit.
My parents separated when I was thirteen, it was inevitable. The wealth my father had accumulated was eroded when he was unable, due to an injury and botched surgery, to continue being a carpenter. My parents argued, and slept with other people, and it’s that memory that shaped my future, the confronting and open sex, not the arguments.
The sins of my parents haunted me and, in hindsight, my relationships were doomed to failure. I found peace, healed, and broke the relationship patterns of generations of family.
This was a difficult period in my life. The girl’s mother was manipulative and predatory and the legal and social systems in place to protect children in Australia are inadequate, underfunded, poorly managed, and fail.
As a father and man I wondered how I didn’t know. I felt guilty and angry for many years. Fathers are supposed to protect their children. For five years child protection services and the court system forced me to return my daughters to a pedophile.
We spent 200+k on legal fees over a five-year period to save my girls. It almost bankrupted me and contributed to my illness. No one was held accountable, the mother wasn’t charged, and even though the girls came to live with me and had no further contact with their mother, no one was unscathed.
Pedophiles are protected in Australia and their victims have limited support. There is no justice in our courts, police and child services are powerless. This activates a vibration in consciousness, “it’s okay to harm children.” Something’s wrong with that.
Governments spend trillions on war, and pennies on social issues. I agree with Michael Jackson, “children are our future.”
You’ve shared with me that you were married once and in defacto relationships with three other women, and that you have a 26-year-old daughter and two teen daughters who don’t speak to you. I’m sorry to hear that. Do you feel that emotional healing is a lot more difficult than physical healing? Are you optimistic about reconnecting with your daughters?
Emotional healing is difficult because the circumstances and the thoughts associated with the trauma – depression, anxiety, fear – replay over and over in our subconscious minds. Our energy fields vibrate at, we’re broken, and it’s this signal that attracts similar situations to us.
My parents separated, all my uncles and aunties separated, so an active vibration in my family is separation. Often, our environment creates our future (read Bruce Lipton’s Biology of Belief). My stepmother’s nephew died drunk in a single vehicle car accident one metre from where his dad died drunk in a single vehicle car accident. The nephew is vibrating at, I will die drunk in a vehicle accident, and in this case is magnetised to the location.
Healing is the bravest journey we can embark on. Essentially, we have to understand ourselves intimately – I call this process seeing the lies. Belief, “I’m happy.” Vibration and subconscious programming, “I hate myself.” – and then reinvent ourselves. It’s like being reborn while we’re still living. Mastering our mind is a beneficial practise for living a joyful and healthy life.
I’m hopeful that I can reconnect with my daughters, but I believe I’ll never have a relationship with my eldest. We tried, but some things need to be left alone. My teen daughters are hurt that I separated with their stepmother, the only mother they care to have in their lives. I have to take responsibility for that, love them from a distant and allow them to heal.
Interestingly, I have two daughters born on the same date to different mothers. Both have been abused and both now don’t communicate to me. I see and heal these patterns with clients, and I hope I can prevent this from reoccurring in future generations.
You have raised stepchildren. What have you found most challenging and difficult about doing so?
Not imposing my will and lifestyle into the home. Change has to happen without disruption. The souls of all children love their father’s and whether father’s are violent or kind, children will feel abandoned and miss them when they leave.
I believe, stepparents, driven by insecurity, often try too hard to be accepted. Love and respect grows over time. Patience ;). As an adult it’s confronting to realise that, like children, we long to be loved. Love is a feeling and state of being we all seek.
I know it is painful for you to be a weekend/single dad. Please, tell us more about your feelings on this. What would you suggest to other men in the same situation?
Keep busy! I’ve spoken to a lot of single dads and most want to spend time with their children. It’s a difficult subject to address because many of us are wounded by divorce and stay in the energy of blame or victim. Relax, and stay out of the fight.
It’s not worth spending time with your children if you’re arguing with your ex. All that tension affects the children. For me, it was the lack of control over my life and time with my children that frustrated me. Children should never have to suffer physical or emotional harm. Fathers, make peace with yourself first, then the past, and then enjoy every minute with your children.
You have views on sexuality that might shock a lot of people. I’ll let you take it from here.
We focus too much on sexuality rather than love. Gender and sexuality have become interconnected and, I believe, the phobias around sexuality have been created by belief systems.
I have a lot of gay clients, and I’d like to drop the gay label. How about, beautiful people come to see me. With the first woman that I saw, as my hand floated across her hips I felt – my hand was 2cm above her – male genitals. I was surprised and moved my hand backwards and forwards: male genitals, female genitals … I concurred that this was spirit’s way of telling me she was gay, which was perception, and I realised I was stereotyping my client, “You’re gay.”
In actual fact her energy field was perfectly balanced, equal parts male and female energy. My partner has a masculine feel in her energy field, but she’s happy being hetrosexual. Does that mean I’m attracted to male energy? I’m comfortable if that’s the case, and at ease with the idea of sleeping with a man. I haven’t, and he’d be the one in a million man, or Jason Bourne, but that admission shouldn’t be judged and it shouldn’t sway me to act on that knowledge. I choose not to because I have a partner, family and a best friend who love me. I know myself, and love is love.
What’s out of balance is society’s perception and judgement. The weight of guilt and fear in my gay client’s energy fields concerns me, and it’s something we’re all responsible for. How’d we get so hung up on sexual preference, practices and regularity? There’s an association with relationships and marriage, and the whirlpool of emotions that stirs up, but, looking at the track record of longevity and happiness in relationships, something’s wrong there.
Sexuality is an environment influenced and lifestyle choice, which is a human consciousness created state of living and not a state of being. Something to ponder :).
I’m forever being called picky but I maintain we’re all picky creatures. What are you picky about?
The shoe rack! It drives me crazy when shoes are left on the floor in front of the rack. Actually, I have a list! How much time do we have?
I’m self-critical, I want to be the best at everything I do, but with healing and my work with spirit, there are few certainties, and it’s probable that they’re only experiences and not fact. I have to surrender control of my mind and body to forces that I know almost nothing about, which is liberating and terrifying.
Also, young dudes, pull your damn pants up!
I know that you do healing and mediumship events. How can people learn more about all that you do and contact you for an event? Do you do events all over the world?
Visit my website and blog :). I’ve been to the US and Canada, and I travel interstate here in Australia. If I had a host I’d travel anywhere. Contact me if you’re interested.
Where else can people find you in cyberspace?
Any parting words for the masses?
I love you :).
Molly, thanks for having me ;). Nice shoes! Have you changed your hair?